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A river way of life

Wednesday, November 11th, 2009

The destination of our first trek in Bandarban was the river that cuts through the area and runs right down to the main town. It was about an hour’s hike through the jungle from our resort. There was a farmer working near the river and he helped flag down a small boat to take the four of us to town. We were told the journey would take about an hour and a half and should cost around 250 taka. The boatman seemed happy enough to have us so we got in and off we went down the river.

The boat ride was quite possibly the highlight of the entire weekend. It was sunny and hot but it felt amazing to be sitting in an old wooden boat, floating down a wide lazy winding river, breathing in clean air that smelled lovely from the fresh water and the dense surrounding jungle. In my opinion, it was basically the exact opposite sensory experience as being in the city of Chittagong. There was no stench of burning trash filling your nostrils, no car horns rattling in your ears, and no dust clouding the air and stinging your eyes. (I know I may sound a bit harsh here about life in Chittagong, but really I just mean to highlight the beauty of Bandarban.)

The greatest part of the experience though was the life we got to see in the water and on the riverbanks. I don’t mean the fish swimming by our boat, or the cows, goats, and boars grazing on the distant land, but the people who lived and spent all their time around the river. There was just so much life to see – I can’t think of a better noun to use. People seemed to do absolutely everything at the water. Women were washing pots and clothes, people were bathing, children were swimming, playing, and wrestling, and a lot of men were working: building things, transporting goods up and down the river, and supposedly “finding natural gas beneath the riverbed” (so said the manager of our resort later that evening when we showed him my photograph).

Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)

Photo taken in Bandarban, Bangladesh on October 30, 2009.

I was just amazed by what seemed like such a potent illustration of river lifestyle or culture. I wondered if most people would spend their entire lives on that river, from the time when they were tiny kids playing in the mud until they were old men and women working on that same shoreline. I couldn’t decide whether I found this idea to be somewhat depressing or absolutely beautiful and somehow liberating. To be honest I found myself leaning toward the latter. I think I spend so much time feeling anxiety over what my “next move” is going to be in life and how I can become bigger, better, and more successful. Maybe it’s American culture in general or maybe it’s especially the hyper-achievement-obsessed school I grew up in but I just feel there’s so much stress placed on the idea of advancement and upgrading and more in general. To forget about that worry seems like a dream to me, and I feel like once you were rid of it you could live a happier fuller life with whatever you already had.

This train of thought led me to want to say things like “these people are all so happy” but I kept checking myself because I felt like that was shortsighted. I’m sure the people who live on that river have a host of problems in their lives, including health and nutritional issues as well as social concerns within their communities. It can’t all just be fun in the sun on the riverbanks. I guess what I really meant to exclaim was that those people all seem to have so much energy and vitality, and I am impressed by that, and perhaps a little envious.

River boat ride in Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)

GPS track of our river boat ride in Bandarban, Bangladesh on October 30, 2009.

The entire boat ride to town did last about an hour and a half, and the only slight glitch occurred when we disembarked and tried to give our boatman his deserved 250 taka. He shook his head no and said we needed to give him more. He had been nice and had also happily let me take as many photos of him as I liked, so we only somewhat begrudgingly offered him an extra 50 for a total of 300 taka. He again shook his head and said that we owed him a whopping 800 taka! This was absolutely ridiculous and we didn’t know what to do. We eventually (and at this point extremely begrudgingly) tried to give him 350 but he still wouldn’t accept. At this point several young men came over from where they had been sitting at the river’s edge and asked me (in impressive English might I add) what was wrong. I explained to one of them that we had been told the boat ride should cost 250, but that our boatman was asking for such an outrageously greater price. The man shook his head and angrily spoke to the boatman (this time in Bangla) and then told me that we should give what we had already offered and that everything was OK and we could go. I thanked him and as we walked away he added that the boatman was a “bad man, very bad man” for the stunt he had tried to pull. Polly told me later that one of the other men had explained that the boatman was not part of one of the local tribes (as they were), but was actually Bengali instead and had simply relocated to Bandarban. This I guess especially fueled our new friends in having no sympathy whatsoever for our boatman trying to rip us off. In any case I was very appreciative for their help, and the experience only further bolstered my respect for the local people.

Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)
Bandarban, Bangladesh (Oct 30, 2009)

Photos taken in Bandarban, Bangladesh on October 30, 2009.

How much? 45 ringgits. OK, fine, 10.

Friday, October 2nd, 2009

Our Malaysian adventure was bookended by short stays in Kuala Lumpur, a city for which I rapidly gained a good deal of affection. At the beginning of our trip we stayed at Serai Inn, and at the end spent a night at the Chinatown Boutique Hotel. Serai was OK, but for a mere 30 ringgits more (for private double rooms in both) I would highly recommend the latter as the difference in quality of accommodation was like night and day (or perhaps I should say like night and ultra-modern-plush-lovely-pillows-and-mattress-after-a-hot-shower night).

We spent all of our KL time in Chinatown, and I sort of loved the vibe there. Yes there is a Chinatown in NYC, but I liked the Malaysian version a lot more. Perhaps this is due to the fact that it’s located a lot closer to the source, and as a result there is a wealth of cheap delicious Chinese street food. I liked the hundreds (thousands?) of street shops in KL Chinatown too. There is this great rhythm in the sea of vendors, visually as you walk by a stall filled with shirts followed by one with scarves, followed by watches and then illegal DVD’s, then shoes, then bags then perfumes, then another with scarves, and another with watches, another bags, perfumes, on and on, the exact same merchandise sold by different groups of people periodically every 60 feet or so. And then there’s the auditory rhythm to go along with it, always the same greetings by the salesmen and women. “Hello! How are you doing? Welcome to Malaysia sir! A handbag for your girlfriend? Welcome to my country! Something pretty for your girlfriend? Hello how are you? You are looking to buy dvd’s, right?” That last type of pitch was my favorite – it was said before anything else and in a completely assuming tone, as if it was painfully obvious that what I had been walking around Chinatown desperately looking for happened to be exactly what they were selling.

One of my favorite things about KL Chinatown is the endless opportunity for serious haggling. The first price a vendor gives you is always ridiculous, and you know that, and they know you know that, but they give it to you anyway. Then it’s your job to give back a price that’s too low and you know they won’t accept. Then they scoff and make an offer in between, and then the dance truly begins. The key moment though is always a minute or two later when you say no and start to walk away, because it is guaranteed they will call you back and cut a little more off whatever was their last offer. At that point it’s take it or leave it, but by then the price has usually at least cut in half from the original. Catie and I didn’t go too crazy, but we did get a tank top (which went from 45 ringgits to 20), four DVD’s (40 ringgits to 28), a scarf and a watch (both 20 ringgits each down from 35), and a creepy hand mirror with an optical illusion doll face on the outside (with a record-breaking cut of 45 ringgits down to just 10).

Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia (Sep 19, 2009)
Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia (Sep 19, 2009)
Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia (Sep 19, 2009)
Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia (Sep 19, 2009)
Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia (Sep 26, 2009)

Photos taken in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia on September 19 & 26, 2009.